Today is Memorial Day, a day that we, as a society, honor the memory of those who gave their lives in military service. I, personally, do not know anyone that has lost his or her life while in service. At least, not to my knowledge i do not. But, i am very grateful for those who did give their lives for the freedoms i have today.
However, i am seeing many people on Facebook getting their panties in knots over people who are honoring living veterans and active service members today instead of just those who have died. Posts like "Memorial Day. Veteran's Day. Know the difference." Really, people? Is this the biggest thing you have to worry about today? i suppose i should be grateful that they aren't posting about politicians or Duggars or Kardashians.
Like i said earlier, i cannot think of anyone who i have known personally that was killed in action. i will definitely honor the lives of all those killed. But, if i want to honor the people i do know that are alive and have served or are currently serving, what is the problem with that? The people i know that do serve in the military, i admire greatly. And if i want to thank them for their service, i will do it. Why would i want to wait until after they are killed to let them know how much their service in the name of freedom means to me? That's ludicrous. It's like waiting until the funeral of someone you know is terminally ill to let them know how much you care.
i totally understand where people are coming from pointing out the literal meaning of Memorial Day. But let's face it, we rarely celebrate the true meaning of any holiday. They are mostly only excuses for getting gifts and having time off of work. So, i say let people celebrate however they like. i think that telling a living soldier how much they mean on this day is a lot less offensive than the 50% off appliance sale at Sears.
And we should celebrate and honor these people every day. Not only today. But, that's life in the good old U.S.A.
Monday, May 25, 2015
Thursday, May 21, 2015
Note to self
Try to figure out what you really want, Bob. Things you want to try, goals you want to achieve. Make a list. You love lists. But make it a true list. Know that it's ok if you don't achieve everything on your list. But you will never know if you don't try. Most importantly, figure out what is standing in the way of what you want and eliminate it from your life, Bob. You know what these things are. It will be hard, but it is all totally doable. You got this.
Now, back to your regularly scheduled program
Sunday, May 3, 2015
Christmas shopping in May
Today, i purchased my first Christmas present of the 2015 holiday season. Very excited about that! i was searching through various things on ebay and ran across something that i think will be perfect for one of my friends. So, i bid and i won. Yippee! Now, it may seem too early for most of you to think about Christmas shopping, but not me. i begin thinking about it the day after Christmas. But, today was the first time i have actually bought something this year.
i take pride in my gift giving ability. Anyone who knows me can attest to that. i like finding those perfect, unique items that people will not be getting from anyone else. That is one of the joys of starting my shopping so early. i can take my time in finding things that are unique and can rest assured that i have accomplished that goal. If you ask anyone who has received a gift from me, they will tell you that most likely is not something i picked up at Walmart. Now, things like cds and dvds, yes i will get those at regular retail shops. But really, what is the fun in that? There's no creativity behind it. But, i will use things like that to supplement the rare find that i also give them.
Another reason i like to start so early is that, in the long run, i save money for the types of gifts i like to give. If i wait until the last minute, i end up spending way too much on things that i am not 100% certain of, just for the sake of giving something unusual. That's not much fun either. There is always that feeling in the pit of my stomach when i watch someone open a gift that i am on the fence about. i don't like that feeling lol!
One of the secrets to good gift giving is paying attention. Listen to what they say. If they show you something online, file that away. Chances are, people will forget things and move on. But, when i go to that file cabinet in my head, i will find so much information that all i have to do is type in a few descriptive words from the file and start shopping. And it is much more fun to shop for things that you know will be different, yet meaningful to people.
So, yes, i have officially started my Christmas shopping. It's early....but it's exciting....for me, at least!
i take pride in my gift giving ability. Anyone who knows me can attest to that. i like finding those perfect, unique items that people will not be getting from anyone else. That is one of the joys of starting my shopping so early. i can take my time in finding things that are unique and can rest assured that i have accomplished that goal. If you ask anyone who has received a gift from me, they will tell you that most likely is not something i picked up at Walmart. Now, things like cds and dvds, yes i will get those at regular retail shops. But really, what is the fun in that? There's no creativity behind it. But, i will use things like that to supplement the rare find that i also give them.
Another reason i like to start so early is that, in the long run, i save money for the types of gifts i like to give. If i wait until the last minute, i end up spending way too much on things that i am not 100% certain of, just for the sake of giving something unusual. That's not much fun either. There is always that feeling in the pit of my stomach when i watch someone open a gift that i am on the fence about. i don't like that feeling lol!
One of the secrets to good gift giving is paying attention. Listen to what they say. If they show you something online, file that away. Chances are, people will forget things and move on. But, when i go to that file cabinet in my head, i will find so much information that all i have to do is type in a few descriptive words from the file and start shopping. And it is much more fun to shop for things that you know will be different, yet meaningful to people.
So, yes, i have officially started my Christmas shopping. It's early....but it's exciting....for me, at least!
Saturday, May 2, 2015
facebook cover photo
This is my current cover photo on Facebook:
Why, you may ask? or not ask lol but there is a reason behind it. It will not stay my cover photo forever, but it works for the time being. Several weeks ago, someone on FB asked me to join their anti bullying group, which of course i did. And after i did, it got me to spend some time reflecting on my own life experiences and that brought up this picture.
i was different from the moment i was born. i have always known that and so has anyone who knew me growing up. Yes, i was a very effeminate child growing up. Yes, i know who all of the characters in this picture are. But, that is who i was...and to a degree who i still am. And it made for a very different growing up experience. Even though i don't think that anyone would choose a life of discrimination, after much reflection i know that i would not change anything i have experienced in my life.
As i have gotten older, i have embraced my masculinity but have never forgotten my past. i do not want to. It has made me who i am today and, even with all of my faults, i am proud of who i am today. But, let me tell you, growing up like me was not easy. i was bullied every day of my life until the day i graduated high school. Sometimes in physical form, but mostly emotional and psychological. And it was hard. Some days i did not want to go to school because i knew the torture that was waiting for me. And there was no safe place for me outside the home. School, church, neighborhood etc. Everywhere i turned i was confronted with my differences in one way or another. Some days it was tolerable, others it was not.
i was blessed, i AM blessed, that i have a family that did not take immediate issue with my being different. i can only imagine the hell that they went through with their friends. All of them...Mom, Dad, Bill....i can't even fathom. But they managed very well under the circumstances and were, to their credit, a very strong family unit. At times, i have felt very guilty about being the source of any misery i may have caused them. And that is very stressful to a child. If you have never really been bullied, it can be hard to understand what kind of burden those feelings place on you. It's damn tough. The closest i ever came to suicidal thoughts during my adolescence was from the guilt of the pressure i was putting on my family. Many times i just wanted to throw in the towel, but something kept me going. i had great support.
The people that made my life hell, in many ways, have grown up. i have encountered some of them after we have become "adults" and i was able to let go of a lot of things. And that felt good. i have not seen all of them, and do not care to see them. i can forgive but not necessarily forget. And that's ok too. Everyone has their own path in life. If i am meant to be in yours, then i will be. It always struck me funny, though, that one of the people who bullied me the most ended up marrying one of my best friends from childhood. Interesting.
Bullying will always happen, sad to say. It is how we deal with it that is my concern. i was lucky but not everyone is. So, if you suspect someone is being bullied, for whatever reason, do everything you can to make sure that they know they are safe and it will be ok. IT WILL!
Anyway, that's part of the story of my FB cover photo. It is a part of who i am. And for once...in a long, long time....i am not ashamed of that!
Why, you may ask? or not ask lol but there is a reason behind it. It will not stay my cover photo forever, but it works for the time being. Several weeks ago, someone on FB asked me to join their anti bullying group, which of course i did. And after i did, it got me to spend some time reflecting on my own life experiences and that brought up this picture.
i was different from the moment i was born. i have always known that and so has anyone who knew me growing up. Yes, i was a very effeminate child growing up. Yes, i know who all of the characters in this picture are. But, that is who i was...and to a degree who i still am. And it made for a very different growing up experience. Even though i don't think that anyone would choose a life of discrimination, after much reflection i know that i would not change anything i have experienced in my life.
As i have gotten older, i have embraced my masculinity but have never forgotten my past. i do not want to. It has made me who i am today and, even with all of my faults, i am proud of who i am today. But, let me tell you, growing up like me was not easy. i was bullied every day of my life until the day i graduated high school. Sometimes in physical form, but mostly emotional and psychological. And it was hard. Some days i did not want to go to school because i knew the torture that was waiting for me. And there was no safe place for me outside the home. School, church, neighborhood etc. Everywhere i turned i was confronted with my differences in one way or another. Some days it was tolerable, others it was not.
i was blessed, i AM blessed, that i have a family that did not take immediate issue with my being different. i can only imagine the hell that they went through with their friends. All of them...Mom, Dad, Bill....i can't even fathom. But they managed very well under the circumstances and were, to their credit, a very strong family unit. At times, i have felt very guilty about being the source of any misery i may have caused them. And that is very stressful to a child. If you have never really been bullied, it can be hard to understand what kind of burden those feelings place on you. It's damn tough. The closest i ever came to suicidal thoughts during my adolescence was from the guilt of the pressure i was putting on my family. Many times i just wanted to throw in the towel, but something kept me going. i had great support.
The people that made my life hell, in many ways, have grown up. i have encountered some of them after we have become "adults" and i was able to let go of a lot of things. And that felt good. i have not seen all of them, and do not care to see them. i can forgive but not necessarily forget. And that's ok too. Everyone has their own path in life. If i am meant to be in yours, then i will be. It always struck me funny, though, that one of the people who bullied me the most ended up marrying one of my best friends from childhood. Interesting.
Bullying will always happen, sad to say. It is how we deal with it that is my concern. i was lucky but not everyone is. So, if you suspect someone is being bullied, for whatever reason, do everything you can to make sure that they know they are safe and it will be ok. IT WILL!
Anyway, that's part of the story of my FB cover photo. It is a part of who i am. And for once...in a long, long time....i am not ashamed of that!
Monday, April 27, 2015
recipe of the week - easy tomato cream soup
This is so easy, it is ridiculous. But it's yummy and good when you need something quick!
2 24oz jars of marinara
2 cans of diced tomatoes
16oz half & half
Mix together and heat through. That's it!
I like to get Marinara with basil in it. If that's not available, usually you can find diced tomatoes with basil. Or add any other spice you may want! We like to top it with parmesan cheese. Sour cream would be good too. Saltines or oyster crackers.
Enjoy!
2 24oz jars of marinara
2 cans of diced tomatoes
16oz half & half
Mix together and heat through. That's it!
I like to get Marinara with basil in it. If that's not available, usually you can find diced tomatoes with basil. Or add any other spice you may want! We like to top it with parmesan cheese. Sour cream would be good too. Saltines or oyster crackers.
Enjoy!
Thursday, April 23, 2015
"Crimes of the Heart" at Triad Stage
Last night we had the privilege to see Triad Stage's current production of "Crimes of the Heart", Beth Henley's comedy drama about three sisters in 1974 Mississippi. It was an entertaining evening, breathing fresh life into a play that could easily hide behind stereotypes and its 1970's design elements. If you don't know the show, I will do my best not to give away too many plot points. The three Magrath sisters, Meg, Lenny and Babe, portrayed respectively by Karis Danish, Eliza Gilbert and Katya Stepanov, have reunited at Old Granddaddy's house shortly after a family "tragedy". What comes next over the following hours is a wonderful study of relationships, in particular the ups and downs of relationships between sisters. Even if you do not have a sister, as I do not, the play is easily relatable. We all have or have had these kinds of sister like relationships in our lives. The ones you love and hate in the same breath. The ones you can tell to go to hell and then turn around and protect them from the bullies. "Crimes of the Heart" illustrates these relationships beautifully, especially in this production. They aren't just sisters. They aren't just family. They are best friends.
Across the board, the cast is consistently good. Everyone has good moments. Some just have more moments than others. Ms. Danish has brought a wonderful dimension to Meg that I have not really seen in past productions. Normally, Meg is the character that I like the least. She is selfish and is often portrayed as the cliche' "bad girl from high school" that never grew up. And yes, in some ways that's what she is but it is not all she is. Ms. Danish really gave me the sense that Meg is a lost soul who is longing for the normalcy that no one expects her to have. She hides behind the image others have of her. So when she falls back into the traps of her selfishness, I felt both anger and sympathy for her. By the end of the show, I truly believed that Meg was on a new path and she would stick to it. Also armed with a subtle sense of humor, Ms. Danish pulled a few funny moments out of Meg that I did not know were there. There were times when all she had to do was shift her eyes and I was laughing out loud.
Lenny is the emotional center of the show. She is the sister that holds, or at least tries to hold, everyone and everything together. Ms. Gilbert gives us a sympathetic, yet better than she thinks she is, Lenny. From the moment the lights go up, Ms. Gilbert welcomes us into this world, into her world, as we watch her celebrate her birthday alone by attempting to attach a candle to her birthday cookie. She is also equipped with keen comic timing. She made things funny because she made them human. I am not sure I have ever laughed at self deprecating ovary references before, but I sure did last night! Ms. Gilbert's Lenny tends to be emotional. Sometimes for comic effect, sometimes for pain and sadness, but every time she gets emotional it is realistic and true to the situation at hand. Lenny has always been the underdog in her family. She's not the favorite and she's not the baby, but she's quietly accepted her place for her entire life. Ms. Gilbert definitely has an undercurrent of human bitterness and anger that is boiling just below the surface. When she finally lets go and begins to believe in her self worth, Ms. Gilbert has us cheering in her corner.
Babe is the quirkiest of the three Magrath sisters. It is her tragedy that brings them all together. Ms. Stepanov has given us a finely tuned balance of quirks, depth of feeling and temporary insanity. One minute, Babe behaves completely normal then in a split second everything goes to hell. Ms. Stepanov easily guides us through Babe's journey in and out of reality. She makes us empathize with Babe and want to protect her. Even though the current predicament the family is in is Babe's doing, Ms. Stepanov makes us understand her motives without playing her as an overwrought, crazy victim. She also gives Babe a good, strong backbone in a role that could potentially just limp along and be eccentric. Babe is protective of those she loves, both family and others, and that comes through loud and clear in Ms. Stepanov's performance without being overstated.
The supporting cast is more hit and miss as a whole. Amy Bodnar's Chick, first cousin to the Magrath sisters, was a little too two-dimensional for me. Having said that, I think that Chick is the hardest role in this show because she is the easiest to caricature. If you are from the South, you know this woman: the spoiled, only child that married money. Yet, these people have often lived the loneliest lives and you can see it in their eyes. That was what was missing for me, the sense that Chick resents her cousins because of their sisterly bond that she will never experience. In her opening scene with Lenny, I could see her trying to reach out to Lenny in as sisterly a fashion as she knows and I wanted her to build on that more. However, Ms. Bodnar definitely knows how to deliver a zinger and her pantyhose scene was one of the funniest things I have seen on stage in years. Dustin Charles' Doc does not have all that much to do in the show and Mr. Charles handles his material with ease. Mr. Charles plays Doc quietly without self pity and that comes through much better in Act Two than Act One, in which his scene almost doesn't seem necessary. He has great chemistry with Ms. Danish and even though I know the script, I still enjoyed the wonderful sense of "Will they or won't they" after their scene. Lee Wilson as Barnette Loyd fared best of the supporting cast. As the young lawyer, he was eager without being too eager. Mr. Wilson gave us a combination of caring, vindictiveness, authority and school boy crush without over playing any of these qualities. His scene work with Ms. Stepanov was especially a joy to watch. They play off of each other very well and I left feeling that these two characters would be in each other's lives in some capacity for a long time to come.
Jane Unger's direction, luckily, is not heavy handed. She has created an environment where her cast find many moments of joy and humor amidst the drama of their lives. The pace of the show is slow, but it does not drag. When the lights came up for intermission, I really felt that it had been longer than an hour. Not because the cast was dragging their heels, but because they packed so much into that first act without rushing anything, I was sure more time had passed. Ms. Unger lets them take their time and do what they need to do. The show moves very naturally and, given that there is audience seating on three sides of the stage, I never felt like I was missing any of the action by the blocking. Kristeen Crosser's lighting was subtle and unobtrusive yet added wonderful atmosphere. I have always thought that light coming in an old house looks different than light coming in a new house and that's what I got. Both Robin Vest's scenic design and Jen Gillete's costumes were spot on. I felt like someone lived in this house and it just wasn't a set. Someone had lived there for a long time. The clothes all looked like they actually came out of someone's closet and was not simply a costume. Both of these design elements could have easily been over done with the 70's style but all was realistic. Chick's hair, though, that needs to be fixed. And I did have problems with one prop, but that is my own personal problem.
All in all, Triad Stage's "Crimes of the Heart" is an enjoyable evening. Its themes are timeless and they are presented with care and dignity by a talented cast and team of artists. A fun evening that should not be missed!
Support your local arts!
Tuesday, April 21, 2015
musical theater thought - original casts
If you could go back in time and see any 5 original casts perform in their original productions, what would they be? It can be a hard question to answer. Do you see shows for their historical significance? or their songs? or their star turn? or their groundbreaking choreography? Or design elements? Or a combination? There are so many things to factor in when one travels in a Broadway time machine. After much pondering, here are my five:
1.Follies was another groundbreaking Sondheim musical that followed up another groundbreaker, Company. These kinds of concept musicals had never really been seen on the great white way before. With an original cast full of old Hollywood with Alexis Smith, Gene Nelson and Yvonne De Carlo, the stunning and haunting score by Sondheim, and a production design that has never been equaled because it would be too expensive today. This one is a must see!
2.Camelot is a score that i have loved as long a i can remember. Even though this show definitely has some book problems, i find the music beguiling and filled with emotion. But, for me, it is the cast that would draw me to see this one. i mean, really. Julie Andrews, Richard Burton, Robert Goulet and Roddy McDowall on the same stage? yes please!
3.Mame is another show where the original cast is the draw for me. As a huge fan of Angela Lansbury and Bea Arthur, how could i resist them on stage together singing "Bosom Buddies". And Jane Connell, one of the best character actresses in musicals in the golden age of Broadway. Even though the show was not the critical success Jerry Herman had with Hello, Dolly! and La Cage Aux Folles, this score is my favorite of his!
4.A Chorus Line. How could i not go back and see this one. An original concept musical about dancers singing about their lives. And they literally were. The stories were drawn from the lives of dancers, many of whom were in the original cast. Amazing choreography and direction by Michael Bennett, and a score by Marvin Hamlisch and Edward Kleban. Pulitzer Prize winner. Doesn't get much better.
5.Gypsy was the pinnacle of Ethel Merman's career. If she hadn't already been deemed legendary, this star turn totally secured that. A tour de force written for her, the score by Jule Styne and Stephen Sondheim is one of the most perfectly constructed ones ever written for the theater. To see her in the role of a lifetime would be amazing!
So there's my list :) What would you travel back in time to see? Of course, it's hard to choose and there are lots of honorable mentions:
Dreamgirls, A Little Night Music, Dear World, Evita, Applause, Once On This Island, etc. I know there are many more :)
Cheers!
1.Follies was another groundbreaking Sondheim musical that followed up another groundbreaker, Company. These kinds of concept musicals had never really been seen on the great white way before. With an original cast full of old Hollywood with Alexis Smith, Gene Nelson and Yvonne De Carlo, the stunning and haunting score by Sondheim, and a production design that has never been equaled because it would be too expensive today. This one is a must see!
2.Camelot is a score that i have loved as long a i can remember. Even though this show definitely has some book problems, i find the music beguiling and filled with emotion. But, for me, it is the cast that would draw me to see this one. i mean, really. Julie Andrews, Richard Burton, Robert Goulet and Roddy McDowall on the same stage? yes please!
3.Mame is another show where the original cast is the draw for me. As a huge fan of Angela Lansbury and Bea Arthur, how could i resist them on stage together singing "Bosom Buddies". And Jane Connell, one of the best character actresses in musicals in the golden age of Broadway. Even though the show was not the critical success Jerry Herman had with Hello, Dolly! and La Cage Aux Folles, this score is my favorite of his!
4.A Chorus Line. How could i not go back and see this one. An original concept musical about dancers singing about their lives. And they literally were. The stories were drawn from the lives of dancers, many of whom were in the original cast. Amazing choreography and direction by Michael Bennett, and a score by Marvin Hamlisch and Edward Kleban. Pulitzer Prize winner. Doesn't get much better.
5.Gypsy was the pinnacle of Ethel Merman's career. If she hadn't already been deemed legendary, this star turn totally secured that. A tour de force written for her, the score by Jule Styne and Stephen Sondheim is one of the most perfectly constructed ones ever written for the theater. To see her in the role of a lifetime would be amazing!
So there's my list :) What would you travel back in time to see? Of course, it's hard to choose and there are lots of honorable mentions:
Dreamgirls, A Little Night Music, Dear World, Evita, Applause, Once On This Island, etc. I know there are many more :)
Cheers!
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