Thought for the day

Slowly, i am learning the importance of self advocacy.  It has never been something i have done for myself much, as i am naturally a passive person and get a great deal of pleasure doing for others.  However, i am learning that there are times when i must advocate for myself and make my voice heard.  There is nothing wrong in going after what i want.  There is nothing wrong with putting my wants and needs at the top of my list.  After all, with a social work career ahead of me, if i cannot advocate for myself, i certainly cannot be a good advocate for others.

Last week, i did some advocating for myself.  The outcome was what i wanted and i am pleased with that.  However, i am more pleased with the fact that i did what i needed to do.  i found value in myself and let people know that i am worth the effort.  i matter...to me and to others.  Doing this sort of thing is foreign to me, but i have to admit that i like the feeling.  It means that i am capable of taking care of myself.  And while i still have other people to answer to, i must also answer to myself and take responsibility for my life.  Advocating is a great way to do that.  Yes, there will be times when the outcome is not what i desire and there will be times when being passive is the way to go.  But, i am on a path to recognize the difference between being passive and being a doormat.  All in all, that's a good thing.

So, i can definitely see a different path ahead of me.  Same goal, just a different path to it.  And by different, i mean that i am going to be more assertive when it comes to myself.  It has been a long time since i have felt this way and i admittedly like that feeling.  It's nice to have a sense of self worth.

That is all

Cheers