Thought for the day - Facebook

i finally made the plunge after a 2 month hiatus and rejoined Facebook.  In many ways, i have definitely missed it.  i miss the people a lot. It's nice to see what people are doing, watching their children grow up and see how life is treating them in general.  What i did not miss does not matter any more.  During the time i was away, i took a long look at why Facebook was affecting me the way it did and i figured a few things out.  One is that i do not need to be in communication with people ALL THE TIME.  Here and there on FB is fine, but i do not need to spend endless hours there.  And not having the need to document everything i do and feel is such a relief.  Sometimes i forget that the seesaw of life gives us both good feelings and bad feelings.  And mine are usually pretty extreme.  Facebook is not the place for that and i know that now.  It's just a matter of me being tactful....which i am mostly, but not always.

Facebook is a good way to reach out people, but not the only way to do that.  While i was gone i wrote letters, made phone calls, had coffee with people, had dinner with people...just got out there in the real world.  Now, i didn't do nearly as much of that as i wanted to but i did make a good starting point.  And i need to balance that kind of thing with FB if i want to avoid another mental collapse.  FB can be addictive and we all know that kind of thing is not good for me.

i have also learned what i will and will not tolerate both from myself and other people.  i feel no need to go into a long list of things but the bottom line is that if it makes me feel bad or has some kind of negative connotation, then it does not belong on my page or in my life.  That includes my passive aggressive bullshit as well.  i believe that everyone is allowed to live their own lives and have their own beliefs and should be respected.  i welcome healthy debate and disagreement.  i do not welcome insults though.  i know how i will handle these things when they arise.

i know that unfollowing people is better than unfriending.  i rarely unfriend people unless things get too bad.  It has only happened a few times.  i, however, have been unfriended plenty by friends and family.  It use to bother me...now, not so much.  It's Facebook for crying out loud not the Holy Grail.

Having said all of that, i am looking forward to catching up with people and finally seeing how Facebook can enrich my life again.  That is all.

Cheers